
Classes are wrapping up and this seems to be the time when I need to be most focused and on top of my work. How am I ever supposed to stay focused with all of the end of the year festivities and sunny weather?
We get it. This is the time of year when Hamilton starts to feel more like summer camp than school. History readings, Econ problem sets and Chemistry labs seem entirely irrelevant. Final exams are distant dates in your Google calendars. First of all, give yourself grace. Take time to spend time with your friends outside. Go on glen walks, run on G-Road, play on Minor field — I promise those are the memories you’ll remember. We are so lucky to go to school in such a beautiful place and you deserve to enjoy these moments. Plain old fun is an equally important component of your education — I often learn more in casual conversation with my friends than I do in formal lectures. To help yourself stay on track, when you do actually sit down to study for exams and write final papers, stay away from friends. I know it’s hard but sometimes the 3rd floor of the library is the best move. When it’s time to lock in, lock in for real and then reward yourself with playtime and outdoor fun.
How should I recover from C&C day this weekend?
The forecast for this weekend is looking rainy. This is the perfect opportunity to cozy up inside. Have a movie night with friends, make a charcuterie board, do the NYT crossword with a group of friends, have a friend give you a haircut, make a Pinterest mood board, make a final assignment schedule, go for a walk to Utica Coffee or Cremeria, check out Thrifty Shopper in New Hartford or Peter’s Cornucopia for healthy and organic treats. On campus, there’s lots going on. Sunday, Outing Club leaders have organized a trip to hike in the Adirondacks — this is a great opportunity to get in touch with nature before you hit the ground running with final work. On Saturday, at 1 p.m., head to the Wellin to explore the new “Make, Touch, Kiss” exhibition. Keep the support for Hamilton art coming by attending the student soloist concert in Wellin Hall on Saturday night at 6 p.m. If you’re feeling a little delicate after Friday’s festivities, make sure you take care of your body. Make yourself some tea or soup, watch a movie in bed and get a good night’s sleep. Get the rest that you need to get through the homestretch.
It feels like everyone has some fun little spring fling going on but me. It’s all anyone talks about these days. What should I do to stay grounded?
It’s true. Situationships and relationships alike seem to be at the center of conversations these days. It’s hard to be genuinely happy for friends who have found romantic success as a single person trying to mingle. It’s important to remember, though, that as much as romantic exploration is a joyous part of college, college is also a perfect time for introspection and time alone. Relish in your singlehood. Embrace the uncertainty of your romantic future and also spend time reflecting on how wonderful you are as an individual. Without the responsibilities that come with a relationship, you have the mental capacity to enjoy the things that you love to do. There’s no one to report back to or keep in the loop about your life. As much as romantic relationships are fun and fulfilling, you are so lucky to have this time to develop as an individual. Nurture your friendships and relationships with your family. It’s easy to lose sight of how valuable non-romantic relationships are when everyone seems focused on finding a romantic partner. I would argue that friendships are the most important relationships in life. Your friends, unlike family and romantic partners, are the only people you truly choose to have as a part of your life with no motive except for your true love for them as people. Also, it’s so much better to be on your own than with someone who doesn’t bring you joy. You are yourself before you are someone’s romantic partner. Go blast “Single Ladies” and buy yourself a Fojo treat — it’s just going to be you at the end of the day.
It seems like everyone has their people here. I love my friends and feel socially fulfilled but am looking to meet new people. How can I make new friends?
It’s never too late to meet new people here. An easy go-to for making new friends is asking people in classes or acquaintances to grab a meal. But, if you’re looking to find friends more organically, consider joining a new club or applying for a job. There are so many niche communities at Hamilton. Check out Hamilton’s Debate Society or Philosophy club to find people who are engaging in heated intellectual debate. Don’t forget about the Outing Club. Hiking trips are a great way to bond and meet new people. I know it can feel awkward, but sometimes complimenting someone’s outfit is a great way to break the ice. I promise, putting yourself out there and starting conversation will only be rewarded. End the year strong by expanding your circle and get excited about all the new friendships that await you when we return in the fall (or beyond Hamilton, if you’re graduating).